The Dos and Don’ts of Caring for a Loved One with Dementia

Watching someone you love experience dementia is heart-wrenching. However, knowing how to care for your loved one with dementia can help maintain that connection for as long as possible and in the best way possible.

Ultimately, it may take some practice. Yet, starting with the dos and don’ts below can offer a guide on what you should and shouldn’t be doing.

Dementia Caregiver Dos and Don’ts

One of the most important things you can do when caring for your loved one with dementia is to practice patience and forgiveness. They aren’t being forgetful on purpose.  And if anything, it’s just—if not more—frustrating for them. So, what should you do?

Here are a few “Dos” for caring for someone with dementia:

• Talk in short sentences and keep things simple.
• Ask simple questions with limited options.
• Repeat instructions or sentences the exact same way you did the first time.
• Agree with them.
• Listen attentively and pay attention to their body language.
• Limit distractions during conversations.
• Always be respectful.

In contrast, here are some “Don’ts”:

• Don’t argue or correct.
• Don’t remind them they have a memory issue (“Don’t you remember? I just told you”)
• Don’t ask open-ended questions (remember, limit the choices! Instead of “what do you want for dessert?” Ask: “Would you like cake or ice cream?”)
• Don’t show signs of frustration, such as yelling or anger.
• Don’t make the individual with dementia have to guess something.
• Don’t try to complete their sentences or thought (allow them the chance to recall or remember).
• Don’t take things personally.

Help Your Loved One Get the Care They Need

It can be challenging caring for your loved one alone. Yet, the good news is you don’t need to do it alone. At Pathways Neuropsychology Associates, our team is here to help. Get in touch with us today for more information.